Mental & Emotional Support

Video of the Month

A brief lifestyle mini-film showing ordinary and self-caring activities from interacting with a pet to making some coffee and cooking soup.

This video, among others by the same creator, illustrates the value of having a “slow” day here and there, engaging in activities that bring us joy, and accepting that we cannot and should not always be productive.

We are more than just our accomplishments, and those other parts of us that are creative, mischievous, foodies, homebodies, etc. deserve to be nurtured as well.

 

Today's a Good Day Even Though You Didn't Wake Up Early|How to Make You Feel Better When You Overslept (10:48)

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The Arduous Task of Getting to Know Yourself

How could we possibly reach new heights in our potential, recognize a sense of meaning in our lives, grow into the people we’ve always aspired to become, all without even understanding our identities just as they are right now? I would liken this to an attempt to follow a map without being aware of our current location. Silly, right?

What I’m trying to say is that I believe we each have immense intellectual, creative and humanitarian potential inside of us, just as theories of self-actualization would suggest. But to be able to experience what it means to be “fully human,” or “beyond just a body taking up space,” we must develop the habit of self-reflection and a genuine curiosity to get to know ourselves, if not for the purpose of growth, then at least in respect to the fact that you are truly wonderful and deserve to be understood.

On that note, here are some self-tested suggestions which you can use for clarity on your strengths and areas of improvement, your goals and fears, your favorites and dislikes, and the many versions of yourself which have represented you at some point, for better or for worse:

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My Favorite Resources

  • The Character Lab's Online Playbooks With Topics from "Creativity" to "Gratitude"

    “Research-based guides to cultivate strengths of heart, mind, and will. Topics include Creativity, Social Intelligence, Self-control and Judgement, among others.

    Character Lab is a nonprofit organization that connects researchers with educators to create greater knowledge about the conditions that lead to social, emotional, academic, and physical well-being for young people throughout the country.”

  • Mental Health Webinar Series by the McLean Hospital

    McLean Hospital recognizes the need for reliable and helpful mental health resources. With this in mind, we have dedicated the time of our staff to ensure we are making free resources available for the public and professionals in hopes of promoting healthy individuals and communities.”

    Topics include 1) the relationship between diet and mental wellness, 2) child and teen mental health, 3) managing stress and burnout, 4) supporting loved ones with mental health conditions, 5) LGBTQ mental health, etc.

  • Dr. Kristin Neff's Collection of Guided Self-Compassion Practices & Exercises

    “In conjunction with her colleague Dr. Chris Germer, Dr. Kristin Neff has developed an empirically supported training program called Mindful Self-Compassion, which is taught by thousands of teachers worldwide. She is also co-founder of the nonprofit Center for Mindful Self-Compassion.”

    Her list of guided exercises include written and spoken meditations guiding individuals through various forms of soothing and motivating self-compassion.

  • Online Unit-by-Unit Lessons in Strengths-Based Resilience

    “The Strengths-Based Resilience program is designed to help you develop resilience, defined as the ability to cope with adversity. The program invites you to reflect actively on your experiences that demonstrate various aspects of your resilience. By reflecting back on these experiences, and engaging in other exercises, you will learn skills and strategies to build your resilience.”

    Lessons include Resilience, Fixed & Growth Mindset, Cognitive Accuracy, Cognitive Flexibility, Positive Relationships, Meaning & Purpose, etc.

  • The Trevor Project's Supportive Online Community & 24/7 Access to Trained Counselors for LGBTQ Adolescents

    “TrevorSpace is an affirming, online community for LGBTQ young people between the ages of 13-24 years old. With over 400,000 members across the globe, you can explore your identity, get advice, find support, and make friends in a moderated community intentionally designed for you.”

  • Online Unit-by-Unit Lessons in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction

    “Through this MBSR course, you will learn skills that can increase your ability to:

    • Cope with stress, pain, and the challenges of everyday life

    • Deal with disturbing events with grace and composure

    • Be fully present and alive in this moment

    [R]esearch indicates that mindfulness training can have a significant therapeutic effect for those experiencing stress, anxiety, high blood pressure, depression, chronic pain, migraines, heart conditions, diabetes and other ailments. In addition, participants typically report feeling more alive, more "in-tune" with themselves and others.”

  • The Black Dog Institute's Informational PDFs for Learning More About Various Mental Health Disorders

    “Our evidence-informed fact sheets are suitable for anyone trying to find out more information about mental health conditions, treatments and wellbeing.”

    Topics include symptoms, treatments, causes, and guides about how to manage various mood disorders, as well as information about specific psychological treatments, healthy mental health practices, and how to help our friends if they’re struggling with their mental health.”

  • College of Wellbeing's Online Resilience Course during COVID

    “A free video-based online course introducing practical resilience tools to help you face and respond to the challenges of our current coronavirus crisis.”

  • Any of the Self-Assessments on the "Basic Self-Compassion" Page

    Learn where you stand now with social-emotional skills so you understand what and how to improve.

    Each assessment is derived from research in positive and cognitive psychology, about topics ranging from awe, healthy selfishness and gratitude, to the classification of character strengths.

Relevant Vocabulary

 
 

More general social, emotional and mental health vocabulary can be found on the “Basic Teen Self-Compassion” page!

— THREE TAKEAWAYS —

Final Recap

 

1. Self-Awareness & introspection

No one knows us better than we know ourselves.

While many people consult with psychiatrists and therapists for mental health guidance, ultimately the job of a mental health professional is usually to empower us with the tools we need to manage unhealthy symptoms and adopt healthy mental and emotional practices.

While there are certain health factors beyond our control, we still have the ability to improve our mental wellbeing by reflecting on personal areas of improvement (ex: self-criticism, healthy conflict-resolution, time management, etc.) and using available resources to adopt healthy skills for our social-emotional toolboxes.

Let’s do whatever we can to get to know ourselves and meet our own health needs!

2. Self-Compassion

Though self-compassion is not a “cure-all,” the additional strength and energy we gain from being self-compassionate is irreplaceably healing.

Don’t let your worries about self-compassion, such as the notion that it is weak or demotivating, keep you from switching out your harsh inner-critic with positive self-talk.

It is research-proven that having a compassionate and understanding voice in our heads to encourage our progress; empathize with our mistakes; push us to do better next time; and remind us that it is okay to be imperfect, is beneficial to our motivation, mood, life satisfaction, relationships, and physical health.

Just as you can uplift and care for your friends, you are capable of being a friend to yourself!

3. Navigating mental health issues

If you are currently dealing with or have just been diagnosed with a mental health disorder, know that you will find support online and around you, and can still lead a content and meaning-filled life.

You are not alone in your struggle. Globally, one in seven 10- to 19-year-olds experiences a mental disorder, according to the National Institute of Mental Health.

Your friends, loved ones, and thousands of healthcare workers who spend their lives working on mental health research, interventions and treatments, are rooting for you.

You matter, and your health matters! I hope that the resources on this website have been helpful to you in managing your health.

 

Important Phone Numbers

 

National Suicide Prevention Hotline (website)

Free and confidential emotional support to people in suicidal crisis or emotional distress 24 hours a day, 7 days a week in the United States.

Call 1-800-273-8255

 

Crisis Text Line

In crisis and need to talk to someone?

Text HOME to 741741 to reach a volunteer Crisis Counselor.

 
 

SAMHSA’s National Helpline (website)

Free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for people facing mental and/or substance use disorders.

Call 1-800-662-HELP (4357)

 

OTHER: Getting Help During a Mental Health Crisis

  • Identify your sources of support.

  • Assess your situation.

  • Get the help you need.

— More detailed steps from Kaiser Permanente’s webpage